As you may or may not be aware, I've been doing JK installs and write-ups since it came out back in 2006. You can find a list of them with links here:
The following index provides links to various write-ups that I have written over the years for my Jeep JK Wranglers. As you can see, they have been broken down categorically by subject to help you find what you're looking for a little faster and easier. If you own a JK, it is my hope that these...
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Unfortunately, we don't have a video on what you're wanting. That said, "must have" is very relative to each person and how it will used and this is to say nothing about budget. Me personally, tow points front and rear and rocker guards are "must haves". Everything else just depends on what you actually need.